Love. Love for your glorious, beautiful and worthy self. That’s what we’re going to talk about today.
Growing up, I wasn’t taught about self love. It wasn’t really an idea in our household. I realize that my parents did the best that they could with what they had, but as an adult raising my own children now, I feel as though this important piece was definitely missing. And it’s something that I fiercely believe in and am determined to teach my children. To love themselves. That they don’t have to be perform to be loved. That they can make a mistake and still be loved. That I believe in them and love them just as they are. And I want them to believe in themselves and to shower themselves with grace. And SO MUCH LOVE.
I’ve been on a journey of self love for the last few years and it’s a journey that has had it’s ups and downs and ins and outs. It’s hard work. Sometimes scary work. But I’m ok with that. It’s my path and I’m grateful for it as I’m learning so much about myself and my place in this world. I am working on a deep and real love for myself.
How often do you think about the things that you LOVE about yourself? Do you take time to think about the things that make YOU awesome? We’re quick to think and harp on things that we dislike about ourselves….our appearance, our intellect, our lack of motivation, where we live, what we do, who we hang out with, what we own and don’t have.
But what about the things that are absolutely beautiful about you? What do you love about yourself? It’s totally cool, wonderful and absolutely necessary to think about what makes you YOU. Toot your own horn, baby! It’s totally ok to love on yourself.
I’ve been thinking about this for a while and want to share what I have on my heart.
What I love about myself.
I love that I am ME. I love the curiosity that I have about myself which has opened my heart to things that have been closed off or that I’ve been afraid to look at. I am starting to fall in love….with myself. And it feels good.
I absolutely love being a mom and wife. My family is ALL THE THINGS to me and I love that I am a good mom and wife and love my family well. I am honored to be in their lives. Even when things are hard and messy and challenging, I know that they love me and that I love them.
I love that I love people. I used to be terribly shy (people I tell that to do not believe me) and I barely said anything in classes in high school. But now? You CANNOT shut me up and I will smile and say “hi!” to you and tell you all of my secrets even if I’ve just met you in the checkout line at the grocery store. Maybe it was something that was inside of me growing up and I needed to learn to let out but now, connection to others is very important to me. If I see you, you automatically get a hug.
I am generous. I love to give. I love to make people feel good and happy. I love that I will send a “thinking about you” text or make a nice meal to let someone know that I am thinking about them or that they are important to me. My heart loves and it loves big. I love that.
I love my eyes. I love the shape of them. I love playing them up with false lashes and glitter eyeshadow. It’s so fun! They are my most favorite feature.
I love that I like to have fun and celebrate all the things. Anything is up for grabs to celebrate, even the seemingly normal and mundane things in life. Why not have fun and celebrate that it’s sunny and warm outside after a long, cold and wet winter?
I love that I have a disco ball hanging in my kitchen for dance parties. And it makes me so dang happy! I love Justin Timberlake and am not afraid to get down when his songs come on. I love that I have string lights in my house to give it the warm and cozy feeling that I love. I love that I like what I like: pretty food, sunsets, flowers, cherry blossoms, a blue sky filled with huge white puffy clouds, the sliver of the moon, poetry, pretty hand lettering, art museums, sunlight on my face, flickering candles, nights out with friends, family time, perfume, color, DIY projects, exploring a new city, the smell of lemons, plants, Sunday morning brunch, really nice people, a clean house, that my bed smells like lavender, snuggles with my son, singing out loud in the car, listening to rainfall as I lay in bed….I’ll stop here. The list is long, people.
I love that I am learning about myself and learning to put myself first. Not comfortably there yet, but I’m steppin’ that way. I love that I am strong and have fought to get to where I am today. I could be in a totally different place right now, be a different person, but I have dug DEEP to be the person I am today and it feels damn good.
I love that I am curious and always looking for and appreciating beauty. That I am both strong and soft. That I am creative and also need inspiration. That I am honest. That I am direct but can be kind. That I am learning to lean in to myself. That I am true to my values, morals, convictions. Staying true to myself. I mess up sometimes, but I love that I am learning to give myself grace and forgiveness.
So I ask: What do you love about yourself? Please don’t hesitate to share with me – I really want to know and I’d love to celebrate YOU.
I hope that this has given you something to think about and ponder for yourself. Because you are amazing. You are worthy, deserve to take up space, deserve to be heard, deserve to love. And BE loved. By yourself.
I love you. xo