Last week, I mentioned that I wanted to start a conversation, surrounding self love. I, myself, have been on a self love journey for the past couple of years, and it’s been a LESSON. I wanted to share with you my thoughts on self love through out the month of February. I also want to hear what you have to say about the topic…..come join the table!
Growing up, I did not know what “self love” was. Not as it’s know today at least. I would say that I grew up in a household that didn’t really encourage self love, self discovery, etc. I didn’t have much of an opportunity to “know myself”. I grew up doing exactly what my parents told me to do, I didn’t make any waves (or tried not to), and felt like I didn’t have a voice of my own. I was very good at performing because that made me feel like I was “enough”. Sad, but true. I was a kid…I didn’t know any better. I thought what my parents did/said was the end all be all. But, your girl grew up and got out into the world and started to see things a little bit differently. To see myself a little bit differently. LONG story short, today as a 44 year old woman, who has been doing a lot of self work, has gone to a lot of therapy, off and on, I’m in the midst of finding my voice, knowing myself and knowing that I, in fact, am enough.
And it feels damn good.
This has nothing to do with being cocky, narcissistic or full of myself. It has everything to do with wanting to see myself differently, growing up a lot, living life, learning and accepting myself the way that I am. That I am worthy, just for the mere fact that I am here. That the love I, for so long sought, exists within me. Changing those stories that I am unworthy, not enough and unseen had helped tremendously in how I now see myself.
There is a lot of buzz around the phrase and concept of self-love. There are so many aspects to it and it means different things to different people. I’m not sure if one view is right or wrong, but I do know what is right for me – what has worked for me.
What I’ve learned so far: Self-love is a basic necessity, a fundamental positive value that can lead us to inner peace and happiness. It’s the unconditional support, self-care, and compassion you give yourself. The love you receive from other people can only make you happy if it expands on or reflects your own self-love. And loving others can only result from self-love: a reflection or expansion of the love you have for yourself.
Next week, in part II I’d love to share with you some simple ways to start practicing self love.